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25 March 2009

How to get and keep long term friendships

Filed under: Health,Relationships — CH @ 6:25 am

Introduction

Human beings sometimes struggle to be liked, respected and loved and they are at a lost as to the secret of how to achieve such an endeavor.

The secret is pretty simple and achievable in all of your relationships once you master the secret art. See the steps below and make the effort to work on the steps listed, and you will see your life improve in leaps and bounds.

The ultimate rewards coming your way will be an abundance of friends and even family members and peers who will shower you with the respect you desire and the love you seek.

Even an enemy can become a friend if you master this secret and practice it in your daily living.

Suggestive Steps:

Step One
You must have a sincere desire to look within yourself and make some very needed changes. Then, be ready to discipline your mind and subconscious to start to accept those changes within your own mind. This is the most difficult step as it will take time and energy to look within yourself. You might not like what you see and then to make the changes you need to make.

Step Two
Now that you have prepped your mind and subconscious to handle this challenge, you can proceed to make close observations of your own behavior. Observe how your react to the people around you – namely your co-workers, your family, your spouse, and even your children. If you find that you are always focusing on a negative trend in your daily speech, actions and reactions then you need to stop that behavior and tell yourself not to feed into such a negative mode.

Step Three
Tell your mind and subconscious to refuse to be drawn into any and all negative flow and avoid acting and reacting negatively in your daily life. Train your mind and subconscious to only accept and work at giving out a positive flow regardless how difficult it may seem.

Step Four
If you find step 3 to be difficult to do, then say this mantra every night just before falling asleep: “I will stay in a positive flow and maintain positive thoughts, speech and actions in my daily life even when I am faced with negativity.”

Step Five
As you say this mantra nightly, you will force your subconscious to accept that mode of thinking. Once that flow has taken seed, you will start to see the inner changes within yourself. You will start to find ways to speak in a positive fashion, even to the most negative of individuals that cross your path in your daily life or the ones that have a close relationship with you as in your personal life.

Step Six
You will start to learn and master ways to always think, act and react in a positive fashion and counter all negativity fluidly, without allowing such negativity to affect you. You will also learn to turn negativity into a positive flow. During this transitional period of self-adjustment, you must consistently remember to make a mental tally of how often you begin to say things in a positive fashion, act in a positive fashion or re-act in a positive fashion. Make a note of the responses you get when you alter your speech, behavior and your reactions. The perfect example is, as they say, “The cup is half full and not half empty.”

Step Seven
Once you have mastered step 6, you will have broken through the barrier of being an obstacle to yourself. You will have learned the secret and the art of how to build the best friendships, the strongest relationships and even the most loving ones. You will also find that you have gained the respect, the friendships, and the love that had escaped you in the past and maybe even the recognition you had sought in your work environment and from your peers. You will have become a very likable person and sought by many to be included in their many gatherings and doings.

Step Eight
Ultimately, you will also benefit by being relieved of a lot of self-induced stress from feeding into all the negativity around you. You will find that people around you will start to react in a positive fashion and extend the same like positive treatment toward you thereby a win-win situation for everyone. Lastly even your enemies will have a change of heart and they might start to see what a truly fine individual you are, and extend their hand of friendship to you.

Overall Tips & Warnings

For this secret art to work, you must be ready to commit your whole heart and soul into this undertaking to achieve success in this area. You must consciously work on yourself on a daily basis to become this new you. The many rewards that can come your way might even surprise you.

Individuals that do not train themselves to have consideration, compassion, understanding and kindness to their fellow men might find that this art would be a difficult one for them to master.

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